01. The three realities model

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Let’s start the course by looking at the model that serves us as guidance for moving through life. We call it the three realities model.

To see and understand the model in detail you can download the image, watch the video and read the text below.

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We consider it important to present a model, because even though a model is abstract, it still can serve us as an orientation and help us to identify elements in our lives that we did not understand.

First, let’s talk about objective reality. Although we can vaguely sound the term objective reality or truth, we usually have ideas founded or conditioned by religions or ideologies that are based on acts of faith.

When we speak of objective reality we refer to the past and present events as they occurred and as they occur. For example, the objective reality of your own birth. The reality of your birth is precisely all the facts surrounding your birth that occurred in the shared reality of the people involved in the moment when you were coming into this world, exactly the way they happened.

To follow this example and be even more specific, we can say that it is the set of vital circumstances in which your parents or those who were involved. The exact words that were pronounced at the precise moments, the sounds when they were articulated, to the exact time in which they were said, all the elements that configured those precise moments.

You can have more or less accurate information about what had happened. You can have access to these facts through testimonies of people or materials (recordings, videos, photos, etc.). Regardless of the information you can access, it is undeniable it had happened. It is the past and something you can not change. You are here and that is because at a certain moment you were born exactly the way you were born, this is the objective reality, the truth.

As is clear from the model above, we refer to the complete objective reality as the whole of what happened and what is present in every plane, dimension and density. However overblown this may sound, it is just for us to understand that there is an enormous portion which we still do not know anything about, because it is part of the information we don’t have access to.

Continuing, we can divide the complete objective reality into two parts. On the one hand is the shared objective reality, which is the reality shared by the people in the world and on the other side is the internal objective reality, which is the internal reality of an individual that by its nature cannot be experienced by any other individuals.
The internal objective reality can also be divided into two again. One of the subdivisions we call the “wounded inner child” or personal wounded reality. This is a part of the internal objective reality that has been damaged or hurt by the painful events of life that has been experienced. Whether events have left more or less imprints on us will depend on multiple factors, including our resilience, our nature and other circumstantial factors.

As you can see in the model, personal wounded reality is a part of our inner objective reality. Indeed, it is a relatively small part of the whole of our inner objective reality, yet when we don’t know its function and content, it can exert a strong influence on the our acts and our lives.
Let’s say for example, that during birth a premature or abrupt separation of the child with the mother may have caused an intense sensation of abandonment in the child. The child may register this fact in his or her nervous system, psyche, and emotional system, crying more often in the following days, or feeling insecure when staying alone for a few moments. These events may have shaped the vulnerability of the person to certain circumstances. It may be the case that this imprint will be resolved over time or it may be engraved more deeply and lasts until adulthood.

In this way, many situations in life leaves their imprints on us. The imprint of these facts can stay in our physical and emotional body, and become the source of strong impulses to react somehow and to activate strategies to avoid the pain. These aspects of trying to avoid pain are covered under the name protection and are directly related to our personal injury reality.

In this way we may have faced situations that left an imprint of abandonment, mistrust, shame, shock, discomfort, pain, sadness, anger, fears, insecurities, etc … all of them shaping our personal injury reality.

In most cases, except for mental disorders such as psychopathy (where the mechanism seems to operate differently or is non-existent), this wounded reality is stored unconsciously in us and exerts a strong influence on our behavior over time. In many cases, we do not know about their existence and characteristics, however, through the use of self-investigation we can access the stored emotional material and learn to relate to it in a new way, leaving behind old behavior patterns of emotionality and thoughts.

When personal injury reality is formed, depending on the intensity and frequency of painful events, it triggers the creation of perceptual filters that contributes to the subjective perception of reality. These are filters of objective reality and can distort the senses, cognition and emotions.

Our personal injury reality is not the only source that can generate filters. We are programmable beings hence through education and various forms of conditioning, powerful filters of shared objective reality and internal objective reality can be generated, alienating us completely from others.
When awareness takes place means that we have come to recognize our filters through self-reflection, and by recognizing them we can regain his our free will on the filters in question and remove it, which will enable us to observe and perceive reality as it is.

Now let’s move from interpreting shared objective reality to seeing shared objective reality.

At this point the individual has two options: they can choose to look through the filter or to overlook the filter by accessing a vision aligned with objective reality, this is done through perceiving objectively. This fact gives the individual the opportunity to know the truth and to act accordingly, allowing them to overcome circling around the same subject without finding a resolution.

In summary:

Premises of the model against us:

The human being is programmable, from when we are little we began to install many programs, the great majority are harmless, some are even positive, but a few programs are malignant and they support the limitation and deviation of our own true capacities and blocks our access to the truth.

By our own physiological programming (the human body), humans tends to seek well-being and avoid pain. Hence some powerful filters stay with us by choice, because even though they are deceiving they give more comfort than the reality/truth.
Not all human beings are equally perceptive (just as there are people who are blind or deaf, there are also people incapable of feeling deep emotions: psychopaths). So the decisions one makes based on the premise that we are all “fundamentally good” are based on a false assumption.

Humans are aware of almost everything, with the exceptions of the shared collective reality and his own internal objective reality, of which he is either ignorant or conscious.

Premises of the model in our favor:

A posititve point is that we have free will, therefore we can choose. Whenever we make use of our will, we can identify the filters that distort our view of reality, and to make a precise diagnosis to find solutions effective to our problems, the prerequisite is to want to do it.

We are in a moment of time in which the access to information is easy and the what can be accessed vast, hence the capacity to initiate a serious investigation of the collective reality is immense. In the same way the means to initiate a serious self-investigation of oneself are immense also. There are many channels that offer information on key aspects of our lives, both personally and collectively.
The panorama is not encouraging, the way to unravel the ins and outs of our collective shared reality and our internal reality is complex and requires a sincere commitment to oneself, to others, and above all to the truths both inside and outside oneself. This commitment is something that depends only on you.

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