02. Personal subjective reality

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Definition: Personal subjective perception is the psychological emotional construction and its physiological manifestation, through which we identify ourselves and differentiate ourselves from others and from objective reality. It is what we call our ‘personal point of view’ – our particular way of seeing ourselves and the world around us.

They are the lenses that we wear, through which we see reality in our own way.

Unlike the basic physical perception of our senses, personal subjective perception is of external and conditioned origin; it is a variable factor depending on the circumstances and the environment.


The purpose of personal subjective perception is to adapt to the surrounding environment, to understand its meanings and to detect its patterns. It also serves as a form of basic defense and self-preservation, as well as giving us a sense of identity in the environment we’re in.



The formation of personal subjective perception as ‘protection’ starts during childhood, it helps us to move forward despite the emotional wounds that we start to experience. It also allows us to adapt to the environment we grow up in, as perception is the ‘interface’ we use to interact with external reality. This adaptation and development is an attempt to obtain what we need from our environment to grow, which we achieve in a more or less successful way depending on the abilities that we carry innately and abilities we develop.

It is during this stage that our personal subjective perception has just come to fruition (starts to form?) (at the same time as our structure of basic/ advanced beliefs and conditioning). Unconsciously we will transfer to a more or less rigid way of seeing reality, and react to it using a set of specific strategies to get what we need or avoid what will hurt us, all according to our personal history and environment. During this time rebellion may arise, this rebellion may contrast greatly to what we have experienced and the conditioning received. This rebellion is not something creative and genuine in itself, but a mere reaction. It is a rejection of what was experienced in the previous phase. While this is an important stage, it is not the last.


In general by adulthood we have completely identified with our personal subjective perception, we think that ‘life is like this, and I am like this’ (according to the conditions received), and that this is established and unshakable. What could be different is that we now have less energy available and that we maintain complex systems of perception which substitute the objective reality. Another characteristic is that if we do not become aware of our personal subjective perception we get stuck inside it, where we fully identify with it over time and it becomes increasingly difficult to be aware of it.

At this stage, this “suit that we have and have made us” unconsciously and automatically, is known, comfortable, gives us an identity, an “I”, and gives us a sense of belonging, security and control.


We can distinguish a few different planes within our perception.

The physiological, mental and emotional planes are intimately intertwined and also conditions one another.

Physiological plane:

Our subjective perception effects our physiology since it is accustomed to a certain biochemical balance from the way we perceive things and especially from our actions following our perceptions.

Mental plane:

Our subjective perception is based on mental conditions accustomed to certain balances in the use of particular patterns of thought, which may or may not revolve around beliefs and worldviews. This determines our ‘world view’ which replaces the implicit truth in objective reality.
Emotional plane:

The world of emotions is strongly defined by our personal subjective perception. For example, it may be that one group of emotions is well experienced according to our subjective perception and another group is not.


Our personal subjective perception in its protection mode, is manifested through archetypes and strategies. This makes up our way of interacting with both our environment and ourselves. This structure is rigid and generally lacks openness and discernment, qualities that are more aligned with objective reality. Each of these archetypes can contain a few roles which in turn have a group of linked strategies. Strategies are behaviors aimed at getting something out of the environment for ourselves due to mental, emotional or physical circumstances derived from unresolved subconscious and unconscious material.

Throughout our lives, if we do not make a genuine and continuous effort to seek self-knowledge, we will live life through conditioned archetypes that underlie the stages of our life and orient our actions, instead of us being the ones in touch with the objective reality and have the ability to determine our reactions to different situations.

If we live within these archetypes, we one or more roles in one or all areas of his life or use one or the other depending on the area in which he is developing, (this is too long I think) may continue to live on in these specific roles in the different aspects of our lives. For example the role of tyrant at work, the role of victim in the family, and the role of savior with friends (in later chapters the roles will be examined in detail).

Positive aspects of personal subjective perception:

It allows us to adapt to our surroundings, gives us feeling of security, helps us to keep going, gives us a sense of identity, and is the main personalized vehicle through which we can access and contact the internal objective reality And external.

Negative aspects of personal subjective perception:

If it is not questioned, revised and discarded when it becomes outdated we are prevented from growing and maturing. It is also unconscious as we are fused with it, so it limits our experience of objective reality, and most importantly it encourages us to presume what we believe to be true is the truth, when it is only a distorted perception or one angle of the truth. When we focus on a certain way of functioning and relating to our enviroment, life becomes circular, which means we repeat over and over the same stories and mistakes without truly learning from them.

This limits our ability to respond to objective reality and often limits us in our evolution to reach greater heights of wisdom, freedom and creativity.

It prevents us from being genuinely FREE.

The final paradox is that the personal subjective perception is a part of the internal objective reality of any human being. However this perception alters the access to the objective reality (which it is a part of), and becomes a tool which distorts, damages, and induce a reinterpretation of reality, rather than offering a direct experience.

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